Can Women Visit Graves? Islamic Rules Explained

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Continuing in the chapter of patience the 30 31st narration offered by. This is the narration of anis. This is the third morning that we discuss this same narration. Again, due to the depth and immensity of lessons and knowledge and wisdom found in this narration, many of the points of this narration, if we were to employ in our lives and ourselves, even a portion of them, not only would we be fulfilling the sunnah, following the sunnah, not only would we be earning reward with Allah, subhanahu wa'ta'ala. But it would make our lives much better, much easier. And that is lessons like not trying to speak reason to raw emotion. Not rejecting and arguing merely by way of rejecting the messenger who carries the message like apology and acceptance of apology. As we'll see, the prophet sallall.aii alaihi wasallam was owed an apology and this woman came to apologize and he did not he sai was accepted that apology etc. many lessons for us in this narration that are beyond the mere scope of the title of the chapter which is patience. There's a lot of other peripheral lessons to be had. So this is the narration of Annis. Again this hadith has been collected by Bkari Muslim in which Annis states that the prophet sallall.aii alaihi wasallam passed a woman who was crying at the grave of a child that she was bererieved of. So basically this was a young child that passed away due to whatever many reasons a child would pass away from and she was bererieved. She was obviously very she was obviously in a lot of pain and she was mourning and grieving the loss of her child. And so she was there at this grave. Now this could mean that they had just buried the child. Just buried the child. And as many of us know, when you go to a funeral and the burial takes place and the ground is the the grave is covered and everything is finalized and finished, people leave. And maybe she stayed behind at this grave long after everyone else had left. or this child had passed away much earlier days ago and she was going to visit this grave. What's the difference? What's the what does this does this make any difference? Well, it affects the ruling that is taken from this issue and that is, is it permissible for a woman to follow a funeral procession or is it permissible for a woman to visit the cemetery and the graveyard? And this is an issue that the scholars and Islamic jurists have differed upon. And the majority of the scholars of the of the three of the four MH view that it is permissible for a woman to visit a grave under the condition. Now there are conditions here. What are these conditions? First of all, that she did do nothing haram there at the grave such as whailing and you know doing all of these things or innovations or any multitude of things that people do when they visit a grave. Number two, that she have the permission of her husband or welli caretaker. Number three, that this not be with any means that there is no suspicion attached to this visitation. Where are you going? I'm going to visit the grave of my brother. I'm going to visit the grave of my father. when really the cemetery during the prophet's time sai wasallam in that time of jahyah was a place where at night specifically people would go to meet each other to do bad things and so if there is any reba if there is any suspicion meaning it's during a suspicious time it's of a of a suspicious frequency It is under suspicious circumstances. It is not permissible and it must be with the permission of her caretaker. And some scholars add and this is correct that it not be of such frequency that it goes beyond what is normal. meaning that every day or every single week or every 2 days she is going to visit these graves or going to visit the cemetery. It should not be something that is extreme or very frequent. There is a narration in which the prophet sallall.aii wasallam said Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has his curse is upon the women that are constantly going to visit the graves. Constantly meaning exaggerated often often often more than is acceptable more than is appropriate. Right? And so an occasional visit to the cemetery for a woman under these conditions is permissible. Al Ahmed and in the med of the former viewed that it was impermissible due to a number of evidences and that is an opinion that has its strength and merits to it. however we have here for instance this narration is a an example of women having gone to visit the graves in the prophet's time saiam and him not prohibiting them in an in an a complete fashion meaning is absolutely impermissible for a woman to go to a grave. If that were the case during his time, we wouldn't find instances like this where women were at the cemetery visiting the cemetery, etc. It's something that did occur and it's something that is permissible. However, it is permissible under the conditions that we just mentioned. How about for a woman to follow a funeral procession? This is more more specific than merely visiting the grave. The majority of the scholars, the the Jum meaning the majority of the form are of the view that it is permissible for a woman to visit the graves given the conditions I just mentioned. However, it becomes more specific when it is going to follow a funeral procession. Is it permissible for a woman to follow a funeral procession? There is a narration where there was a funeral to take place in the prophet's time saiam. and he passed by a group of women of the companions that were preparing themselves to go and follow the funeral procession. And so when he passed them, he asked them, "Where are you all planning to go?" They said, "To follow the funeral procession.".

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He said, "Go back to your homes, sinful and unrewarded." Meaning that it is not permissible for a woman to follow a funeral procession. This narration is not an authentic narration. It's been collected in a sununin. It's been cited as an evidence for the prohibition of a woman following a funeral procession. But it is a weak narration and a weaker opinion. Is it permissible for a woman to follow the a funeral procession? Permissible? Yes. In the correct opinion, preferable? Certainly not. It is not especially due to the due to the circumstances that follow a funeral procession. But if we were to add to that that which women are most pr prone to during funeral processions such as wailing and doing things that are of the affairs of anybody. this whailing and screaming and doing all these things that is most prevalent amongst women in following a funeral procession. This makes it absolutely haram and it's not permissible for a man or a woman to do such things and it's a major sin in Islam. However, if the previous conditions are met and it is infrequent for a woman to follow a funeral procession, then the majority of the for view that it is permissible. Alhamdulillah.